Monday, January 30, 2006


When I did my schooling in India I used to love the day when it was someone's Birthday. He/She would be dressed in a color outfit while the whole school wore Navy blue and white. Both (Veena - my sister and me) our birthdays were during the summer months, so we never got to do this. (Now I think of it, imagine the amount of money our dad saved by not buying candy for 24 years - 12 for Veena and 12 for me for 60 some people).

When ever I got candy for someone's b'day, if they were real close to me I would ask them for another candy and would take both home so Veena and I could share. Veena did the same thing. I do not remember when we started doing this, but we did it since our primary school days. One day something special happened to somebody and they distributed cake to whole of primary section (By cake I mean the small cubed shape that is made for one person. I think it is called pastry cake). I was in 5th grade and Veena in 8th. So I got cake and Veena didn't. I washed my luch box, put the cake in there and brought it home to share it with Veena.

I came home and showed the cake to my sister and we both for so happy. Mom told us to go wash us so we can eat it. Veena and I went to clean up and mom stepped out for something. Then the most depressing thing happened, our neighbor's cat came and ate that cake. I was so sad that I started crying and I told mom "I was doing the right thing by bringing it home, but I didn't get to eat it. All my friends who ate by themselves got to eat it, but not me." Veena tried to tell me that it was okay and it was just a cake.

I was upset the whole evening till dad came home with a whole cake. And that was one of the happiest days in my childhood. And it is not because I got a whole cake (almost, shared it with Veena), but if that day my dad wouldn't have brought that cake home I would not believe in sharing anymore.

Even to this day I can share anything with my friends and families wholeheartedly.

Tuesday, January 24, 2006

The Perfect Tag

Have been tagged by Divya and Silverine


1. The tagged victim has to come up with 8 different points of their perfect lover.
2. Need to mention the sex of the target.
3. Tag 8 victims to join this game & leave a comment on their comments saying they’ve been tagged.
4. If tagged the 2nd time, there’s no need to post again.

So here it goes.

The Humsafar/Lover tag has been going around for a while and I wasn't tagged by ROS as I already have found my humsafar, but finally got tagged. As most of you guys are aware that I'm married to Shekar. So instead of listing qualities of how I want my humsafar to be, I'm gonna lists characters of Shekar that I admire.

  1. Love for cars - I love cars and take utmost care of my Sally II. Shekar is also very particular about keeping the cars clean and driving cars that make the experience memorable. So most of our money and time is spent on our cars and we never argue about it. By default he knows a lot about cars than me and he explains to me how things work internally and I love learning about it too. He tells me what engine oil we use and what those numbers mean.
  2. Patience - Be it with teaching me how to ski to listening to the millionth time about an incident that happened to me, when was a kid. I can tell the same story over and over and he will never say "You have told me this before" because he thinks I have so much fun telling the story.
  3. Maturity - He is way more mature than I am. So I can be irresponsible at times (I'm usually responsible). I don’t have to be all like “Did you do this?” , “Did u finish that?” I never have to baby sit him and I can be a baby in this relationship.
  4. Faith – Faith in God is another great thing about him. It is so important for me to have faith in God and also practicing the religion. I need to go to church every Sunday and it is wonderful when my partner has similar needs.
  5. Family – I’m a believer of “Marriage is between two families and not just 2 people”. I love the way he treats my parents and vice versa. Our families get along so well and I so at ease with his parents too.
  6. Resourceful – All I need to tell him is that I need a new phone, Tada and he will get me the best phone available in the market for the best deal. He has tremendous patience to read reviews and then make a purchase. Not just phones, be it Camera, Guitar or anything.
  7. Helpful – We don’t have a 50-50 relationship where I cook and he eats, I vacuum and he lifts up his feet, but we have a 50-50 relationship where he actually does chores around the house.
  8. Looks – Last but definitely not the least, he looks great (It is not a biased opinion – he is very handsome).

I could go on and on, but the tag says 8, so here I stop.

Everyone I know has already done this tag other than Jaguu, so hence I tag Jaguu.

Wednesday, January 18, 2006

Songs are Memories

Few days ago, few of our friends we coming back from a road trip and the person in the passenger seat changed the CD to a collection of old songs. The whole car went quite, and the songs came to life.

That is when I realized that each song has a memory attached to it. When we listen to a song that we used to listen, when we were kids, we become that age. Each of us had different memories associated to these songs, but we all had memories.

The whole while that CD was playing all six of us were in our own world and the SUV was so quiet.

10-15 years from now if we hear Silsila hai Chahat ka from Devdas are we going to have the same feeling that we felt that day? I think NO, maybe the songs are not as great as they used to make them years ago, OR we may have grown up and we do not associate songs to feelings anymore.

I think the latter is true.

Friday, January 13, 2006

Thou shall not steal

I usually try not to take things that do not belong to me. May it be a small eraser or something huge. If I see money on the street I pick it up and make sure I put it as offering in the church the coming Sunday. If a cashier gives me extra change, I return it to them. If a cashier forgets to charge me for something, I remind them about that too. That is just the way I'm.

The reason I do this is because I firmly believe that things I do not earn, do not stay with me.

One of our family friends, he gets paid by the hour, and one day he got paid for few hours that he didn't work. He decided to keep mum about the whole thing and dashed home. He got home and opened his car garage and the chain broke and it cost him the almost the same amount as he got over paid. When we were kids, dad used to tell us this story all the time, when we brought something home that didn't belong to us. No matter how insignificant, he made us return it. He once made me apologize for bringing a paper clip from neighbor's home (I was 5 and was fascinated by it).

Last weekend, Shekar and I went out of town and we stayed at a hotel. When we checked out, it wasn't that cold, so I decided not to wear my jacket. So I grabbed a hanger from the hotel closet, put my jacket on it and took it to my car and hung it by the back seat of the car.

Yesterday I got home after work and I was putting away my clothes. I was putting away the turtle neck (opening to put the hanger is too small) I wore during the day, and as I try to put the sweater on the hanger, the hanger snapped.

That is when I realized that my dad's story still stands true and I vow not to take anymore things (no matter how small or insignificant) from anywhere.

Wednesday, January 11, 2006


When it comes to girls we are all (at least most of us) very attached and passionate about our hair.

When I was a kid, mom used to cut my hair till I was 6, then we used to make a trip to a nice beauty parlor where a very nice girl, Vidya, used to cut my hair. We used to go there very frequently and became very close with her. She was 25 or 26, so I used to think, Vidya is so much cooler than my parents. I used to enjoy her company. I used to have real short hair, with a very guyish hair style.

Reminds me of an incident, when I was in Tamil Nadu (I was 12), I was taking a bus to go somewhere. I got on the steps and the conductor, he was standing above all the steps, told be Tampi, pinnadi poy eeru translates to little boy, go climb through the back. I raised my head and he smiled apologetically.

That is how short my hair used to be. All my friends by this time started having nice long hair, or girlish short hair. Still I loved my hair and planned to wear it like that all the time. Then something unthinkable happened when I was 14, Vidya now in early 30s got involved in an accident and was killed. That is when I decided that I'm going to start growing my hair.

To this day I have not got my hair cut short because I feel that it is something special that only Vidya and I shared. I do get occasional trims but that is it.

Now my hair is nice and long (little below shoulder), I often wonder what Vidya would say. In the deepest of my heart I hear her voice, "You look a lot prettier with short hair."

Monday, January 09, 2006

Answer Now - Interpretation

If you haven't read the previous post Answer Now read that to have this post make sense.

Since all of you were kind enough to put up your answers, I'll post my answers too

Color - Black
-Stands out
-I don't remember what the 3rd reason is

Animal - Tiger
-Looks very Majestic
-Strong animal in the family of felines
-Very muscular


Now the Interpretations

Reasons for one's favorite color:
Are the traits one is looking for in a significant other.

Reasons for favorite animal:
Are our very own traits

Water body signifies the relationship with this significant other
Lake - Very Faithful
Waterfall - Will look around, but still faithful
Ocean - Hard to be faithful

Have fun interpreting your answers.

Thursday, January 05, 2006

Answer Now

Happy New Year Everyone

This being the first post of the year, I wanted to make it a little different than my other posts. This is more of an interactive post. Please post your answers as comments.

1. What is your favorite color and list three reasons for this.

2. What is your favorite animal and list three reasons for this.

3. Which of the three do you prefer?

  • Lake
  • Waterfall
  • Ocean

I am not the author of this, and am not aware who is.

PS: The interpretation of these answers might get a little personal. And if you know what the interpretation is please do not spoil it for others. I will post the interpretation next week.